Archive | December 2016

Merry Christmas

Well, I have just enough time after Christmas Day to pop up a few pictures and wish everyone a happy 25th. We celebrated at home just the 7 of us. It was lovely. We skyped some people, played with new toys and ate tons of not so healthy foods. Hopefully I can share more later, but for now РI hope that whatever you celebrate this month was amazing! 

New Pj's with cookies for Santa

New Pj’s with cookies for Santa

They may not be hung by the chimney with care, but they were filled with love.

They may not be hung by the chimney with care, but they were filled with love.

Happy kids

Happy kids

Yup... that is a poop emoji on the far right...

Yup… that is a poop emoji on the far right…

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Skyping with family

Skyping with family

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas

Zander and his latch hook kit.

Zander and his latch hook kit.

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Colouring Echo's new dollhouse for her 18 inch dolls.

Colouring Echo’s new dollhouse for her 18 inch dolls.

My Christmas exchange mailing... straight from Australia!!!

My Christmas exchange mailing… straight from Australia!!!

Scalloped potatoes and ham!

Scalloped potatoes and ham!

This entry was posted on 25/12/2016, in Uncategorized. 2 Comments

An Active Reflection…

Lately when circumstances come up that Ken would previously react highly negatively to we find this conscious movement to reflection.

We are in a rather interesting situation at this point in our journey. Ken is what we basically consider “healthy”, his physical health is excellent, he is able to manage his mental health issues, and change is no longer a massive issue. BUT we are still close enough to the dark and scary that when something comes up… say a frustrating drive… it is still fresh enough in our minds to have us hold a discussion as to the different behaviors and reactions Ken now has to the stimulus.

I don’t know that that will ever truly fade away. I know I have discussed recognition and realization before in my blog entries. (specifically the realization that some things are just never going to go away) I firmly believe that a strong support on this journey is the ability to realize a change, the recognizing of it and the work that it took to complete said change.

We humans are creatures of habit. This makes it quite the accomplishment when something so deeply ingrained in our lives like attitude and quick reactions are altered. And in Ken’s case, significantly.

Holding that dialogue – do you remember how you used to react? Do you have to think about it, pull yourself back? Is it instant now or nearly instant? How does it make you feel when you see your new behavior in action?

Bringing up those negative reactions/thoughts/feelings/processes, at this point in our journey, serves as a reminder of how far we have come. It is a momentary stopping point to take the time and positively discuss something that once was a significant point of contention and hurt feelings in a new light. This was once our experience, but here we are… in traffic… calm and realizing that anger and misplaced frustration gets us no where but into an argument.

Being active in our bringing these moments to the focus, even just for a moment, means that we are fully acknowledging how far we have come. We are taking that moment to be IN THE MOMENT. Discussion releases any pent up frustrations on my part in regards to a period of time where Ken’s internal self¬†destructive thoughts would come out as anger and frustration at me. Discussion also allows me the opportunity to reinforce that even if the change is slight I see it, I acknowledge it and I am PROUD of him.img_20161123_171733

So Many Memories To Enjoy

And all because I can take a photo and let it sit. Thank goodness for digital… Ken says loudly. Enjoy the September overflow and check out the original post HERE.

Quiet late night movie

Quiet late night movie

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Moving target practice

Moving target practice

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Culver's!

Culver’s!

UNCLES

UNCLES

Braids from the fair

Braids from the fair

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My boys

My boys

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Favourite shirt

Favourite shirt

Reading together

Reading together

Big and tough with Zander

Big and tough with Zander

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Bubbles!

Bubbles!

Church ready

Church ready

With one of my Ethiopian shawls

With one of my Ethiopian shawls

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...asleep

…asleep

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cuz pretty

cuz pretty

Science!

Science!

Complete!

Complete!

Ukrainian Eggs and working out

Ukrainian Eggs and working out

Belated Birthday thanks to Gammie

Belated Birthday thanks to Gammie

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